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    Quote Originally Posted by bajisima View Post
    But guys love it. I would venture a guess if you could hold some sort of candid camera study where you had a female walk in and squeeze 20 guys butts, few would be upset. Certainly none would file a harassment claim. Would the same be true if it were reversed? I think it just shows how men and women view physical contact very differently.
    True. Many men will never say no to sex with a woman if offered. Not the way it should be, but the way it is right or wrong.
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    Quote Originally Posted by bajisima View Post
    There still is a bit of a double standard in some areas. For instance, we have a couple female workers that pinch the butts of the guys when they see them. Of course the guys love it and flirt but what would happen if the guys walked in and pinched the butts of the females?
    You are saying the guys love it so that is probably why the women are doing it. But let me ask you how would these men feel if one of the guys pinch their butts? What I am saying is people are including fantasy in here. Unwanted sexual attention is harassment
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    Quote Originally Posted by Dr Sampson Simpson View Post
    Ha, I was sexually harassed by my gay manager, I just dealt with it. Was extremely awkward, several weeks before he became our store manager, another manager said he came in once and thought I was cute (OK, didn't need to know that). Then he became the manager, and he was kind of an annoying person to begin with, anyway, first day I worked for him he comes running up to greet me all cheery and such (again, awkward). And would make comments to other people about me, or would offer to fix my belt (why you looking at my ass).

    Anyway, after the initial awkwardness I was fine with it
    This happened a lot in the mid-1990's. Gay men are men. GLBT people are not Angels Among Us.

    There was a real rage that DADT, etc. was still going on and gay rights seemed hopeless. Some gay men took that rage out anywhere they could. Subordinates at work being a favorite thing.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Madeline View Post
    I was looking for Amen!

    But I will accept yes.

    I am 63 years old and white and middle class, and the last time I felt sexually harassed was this WEEK. I expect this will never change but lke all injustices, the law cannot address every injury. I had this very intense man try to chat me up on line st the grocery. When I did not respond, he went from "charming fellow" to "angry asshole". At 3 pm on a Tuesday! To an old lady!

    This would not have inspired fear in me unless he tried to follow me into the parking lot.

    Even then, the law dies not and can not criminalize male behavior that usually inspires fear in reasonable women.

    Women and girls have a very different way to move through the world than most men experience.
    Many years ago my husband had his "click" moment. We were meeting at his office and he was standing outside. In order for me to reach him I had to walk past the construction workers who were all making sexist comments. He noticed how my body language totally changed and he realized He walks past them every day and doesn't even think about it while I have to prepare myself for the indignation.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Isalexi View Post
    You are saying the guys love it so that is probably why the women are doing it. But let me ask you how would these men feel if one of the guys pinch their butts? What I am saying is people are including fantasy in here. Unwanted sexual attention is harassment
    That's happening as well. They still don't file lawsuits. Look at Dr. Sampsons post, he didn't run to HR and complain. Its a guy thing.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Isalexi View Post
    You are saying the guys love it so that is probably why the women are doing it. But let me ask you how would these men feel if one of the guys pinch their butts? What I am saying is people are including fantasy in here. Unwanted sexual attention is harassment
    Exactly. By any human towards any human.

    Our children are not being taught this enough, IMO.

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    In my waiting days, we called that the "Three T's:" Titty Touching for Tips......
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    Quote Originally Posted by Dr Sampson Simpson View Post
    Ha, I was sexually harassed by my gay manager, I just dealt with it. Was extremely awkward, several weeks before he became our store manager, another manager said he came in once and thought I was cute (OK, didn't need to know that). Then he became the manager, and he was kind of an annoying person to begin with, anyway, first day I worked for him he comes running up to greet me all cheery and such (again, awkward). And would make comments to other people about me, or would offer to fix my belt (why you looking at my ass).

    Anyway, after the initial awkwardness I was fine with it
    Imagine that tenfold and you would know how a woman feels
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    Quote Originally Posted by Isalexi View Post
    Many years ago my husband had his "click" moment. We were meeting at his office and he was standing outside. In order for me to reach him I had to walk past the construction workers who were all making sexist comments. He noticed how my body language totally changed and he realized He walks past them every day and doesn't even think about it while I have to prepare myself for the indignation.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Madeline View Post
    Bless his heart! That was the right thing to do -- although no crime had occurred.
    Yea, well, he had three daughters, LOL!

    (And, this wasn't Cameron's 'first' such encounter.......he was actually quite the ladies man. The sort who girls would literally TELL you about how he cared for nothing more than a "one-night stand" and, how they would NEVER go to bed with him....before going to bed with him, later in the evening......for a 'one-night stand.")
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