I was not quite sure what forum to place this topic on consensual non monagamy in. It certainly fits the topic of "sexuality" but that is a sub forum of Civil Rights. Never the less, that is where I chose to create it- under sexuality. I will add that while non monogamy is, generally speaking, not a civil rights issue, it could at some point emerge as one . How?? There is a small miniority of those engaged in consetual non-monogamy why want legal recognition for marrige to more than one person- group marriage. If that developed into a movement, it could become an issue like same sex marriage. We are not talking about polygamy here. We are talking about polyamory, a term that many may not be familiar with. There are important differences.
There is another way that it might emerge as a civil rights issue. "Adultury" The act of a married person having sex with another outside of the marrige is still a crime in quite a few states, although not enforced. However, if the religious right should tighten their grip further, those laws might be enforced, and new one might be passed, resulting in court battles like those about sodomy.
Anyway, I'm interested in seeing what kind of interest and reaction I get to this topic. Please read the whole article and comment thoughtfully and honestly. Feel free to share your experiences, if any, with any form of non monagamy while in a commited relationship.
Rethinking monogamy today - CNN.com
non-monogamy right for you?(CNN)Could opening your relationship to others benefit you and your partner?
For many couples, monogamy -- staying sexually exclusive with one partner -- is expected and assumed. It's even included in many marriage vows. But as some people are increasingly realizing, monogamy isn't for everyone.
As a couples sex therapist, I've found that some may feel committed to each other yet still feel they have fundamental differences in sexual interests or desires. In the past, many of these couples might have chosen to break up, cheat or just "settle."
But these days, some are finding they want to challenge their notions about sexual exclusivity.
.So how do you know whether trying consensual non-monogamy -- which includes polyamory, the ability to have sexual and emotional relationships with others -- is worth exploring? First, it helps to understand how you and your partner define sexual openness, as well as sexual exclusivity
"There are as many different types of non-monogamous relationships as there are people in them," Vrangalova said.
For some couples, non-exclusivity might take the form of attending "play parties" together and swapping partners, watching other couples have sex, dating other people or even entering into polyamorous relationships with multiple partners.
Consensual non-monogamy can add spark and fulfillment to a healthy relationship. "It can actually remove the fear inherent in some monogamous relationships related to the potential for abandonment -- for example, if their partner were to meet someone else," explained Pitagora.
"For other people, there can be a deep sense of relief
in not having to be the sole source of sexual satisfaction, and this can lead to greater opportunities for intimacy and bonding," she said.
You'll want to consider issues such as jealousy, honesty and safe sex practices, just to name a few. It's also worth remembering that non-monogamy still carries a stigma in many circles, so think about how you and your partner will address that concern.