After a Year of Celibacy, Once-Promiscuous Homosexual Finds Himself Attracted to Women, Not Men

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There is a pervasive attitude towards homosexuality that you’ve likely heard before; that homosexuals were “born this way.”
While we are certainly all born sinners, and it is understandable that many people who struggle with same-sex attraction do just that, struggle, it is pure hogwash that it is a sexual desire that is impossible to change, or that because someone has such a difficult time changing, they simply ought not to.

Imagine if we applied this logic to anything else that we recognize as unhealthy sexual behavior? Adultery? The desire to rape? Pedophilia? (The latter, of course, we are starting to see advocated for more and more.)
However, what constantly debunks the idea of being “born this way” is the experience of individuals who do the unthinkable: change their homosexual attractions.
Dominic Hilton, after performing homosexual acts with up to 150 men and engaging in 4 longer-term relationships with other males during his young life and working as a ‘male escort,’ clearly surprised himself with the discovery that he isn’t ‘gay’ after all.
“If you’d have asked me in the past if a person can change their sexuality, I’d have said no – but I’m living proof that you can,” Hilton told The Mirror. “Sex is always something I enjoyed, but this past year, that sexual attraction to men has just gone.”
“It was a gradual thing – not like someone flicked a switch and I was straight – but now I am actively seeking a girl to settle down with,” said Hilton.
Following the break up with his ‘boyfriend’ on Christmas Day, 2017, the 27-year-old from Bournemouth, England resolved that in the new year he would abstain from sexual activity and dating.
“I started reading up on celibacy and saw people talk about how it had helped their self-esteem, lessened their anxieties, given them more energy and generally taught them more about who they were,” said Hilton, according to a Daily Mail report.
By choosing to be celibate for a period of time, Hilton had only hoped to feel a little better about himself, and gain a sense of control over his life.
“At that point, I was still feeling down about my break up, so I just wanted to do something to make me happy. I never imagined celibacy would change my life as much as it has.”
Over the course of 2018, Hilton noticed he was becoming increasingly attracted to women, and soon came to the conclusion that he was no longer attracted to men. He reached a major turning point while on vacation last fall.
“My male friend and I were on holiday in Alicante, Spain in October, and where I’d usually be chatting about guys we could see, and if I thought they were attractive, I just couldn’t join in,” Hilton told The Mirror.
“Then my friend turned to me and said, ‘You really are straight, aren’t you?’
After a Year of Celibacy, Once-Promiscuous Homosexual Finds Himself Attracted to Women, Not Men ⋆ Activist Mommy
There you go, it’s just always been an urge. Take a year off and it’s gone


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Why does 'everyone' of a certain 'persuasion' OBSESS over this?

PS I had a gay coworker, lived with a guy for 14 years. Then he decided he liked women. Married one, had 2 kids. But when he TRAVELED he was 'gay'. (I told my friend--STAY AWAY FROM HIM--in the 'biblical' sense).
 
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There is a pervasive attitude towards homosexuality that you’ve likely heard before; that homosexuals were “born this way.”
While we are certainly all born sinners, and it is understandable that many people who struggle with same-sex attraction do just that, struggle, it is pure hogwash that it is a sexual desire that is impossible to change, or that because someone has such a difficult time changing, they simply ought not to.

Imagine if we applied this logic to anything else that we recognize as unhealthy sexual behavior? Adultery? The desire to rape? Pedophilia? (The latter, of course, we are starting to see advocated for more and more.)
However, what constantly debunks the idea of being “born this way” is the experience of individuals who do the unthinkable: change their homosexual attractions.
Dominic Hilton, after performing homosexual acts with up to 150 men and engaging in 4 longer-term relationships with other males during his young life and working as a ‘male escort,’ clearly surprised himself with the discovery that he isn’t ‘gay’ after all.
“If you’d have asked me in the past if a person can change their sexuality, I’d have said no – but I’m living proof that you can,” Hilton told The Mirror. “Sex is always something I enjoyed, but this past year, that sexual attraction to men has just gone.”
“It was a gradual thing – not like someone flicked a switch and I was straight – but now I am actively seeking a girl to settle down with,” said Hilton.
Following the break up with his ‘boyfriend’ on Christmas Day, 2017, the 27-year-old from Bournemouth, England resolved that in the new year he would abstain from sexual activity and dating.
“I started reading up on celibacy and saw people talk about how it had helped their self-esteem, lessened their anxieties, given them more energy and generally taught them more about who they were,” said Hilton, according to a Daily Mail report.
By choosing to be celibate for a period of time, Hilton had only hoped to feel a little better about himself, and gain a sense of control over his life.
“At that point, I was still feeling down about my break up, so I just wanted to do something to make me happy. I never imagined celibacy would change my life as much as it has.”
Over the course of 2018, Hilton noticed he was becoming increasingly attracted to women, and soon came to the conclusion that he was no longer attracted to men. He reached a major turning point while on vacation last fall.
“My male friend and I were on holiday in Alicante, Spain in October, and where I’d usually be chatting about guys we could see, and if I thought they were attractive, I just couldn’t join in,” Hilton told The Mirror.
“Then my friend turned to me and said, ‘You really are straight, aren’t you?’
After a Year of Celibacy, Once-Promiscuous Homosexual Finds Himself Attracted to Women, Not Men ⋆ Activist Mommy
There you go, it’s just always been an urge. Take a year off and it’s gone


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Did you consciously choose who do be sexually attracted to? For example, did you start by lusting after men, but decided you'd rather be attracted to women and so you consciously altered that? Maybe. If so, that would explain a lot. But my guess is that you were simply attracted to women from around the time you hit puberty, with no effort going into it. It's that way for most gay people when it comes to being attracted to members of their own sex.

There are some people who find their attractions shifting over time, in one direction or the other. I had a female coworker who was married for years to a man who then fell in love with and married a woman. She used to think of herself as heterosexual then came to think of herself as homosexual, and I guess most people would label her bisexual, even though at each stage she was only attracted to one sex.

You come at this from the perspective of someone whose religion has a taboo against homosexuality (and promiscuity), so it makes sense this story would appeal to you. But for the large majority of gay people, things just don't play out the way they did for this particular person. There's simply no evidence that periods of celibacy regularly result in gay people turning straight. In fact, for much of history, gay people went through long periods of celibacy, as a result of the dangers inherent in trying to find fellow gays, or fears of supernatural punishment if they acted on their urges, and yet that didn't mean homosexuality vanished. Even after years of living as closeted, celibate homosexuals, those urges remained.
 

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