- Feb 2010
- between Moon and NYC
Try not to conflate the study with the press release. What the study was actually about is quite interesting (I thought so, anyway).The conclusion was based on eye dilation.
Sounds to me more like a research study that started with a sensational result and then looked for any "evidence/correlation" to confirm their discovery.
Not on board....
This was a little hard for me to follow but your point is reasonable. To make a long story short a client of mine, a highly educated Vietnamese businessman that builds and owns a few "glory-hole" and pornography businesses here in the county told me once that it is primarily middle-aged and older "straight men" that are his biggest customer base. I asked him once if he thought they were all gay or were they just curious and he said "No, probably not after so many repeat visits; I think they are just lonely." He and his businesses support his ever growing family and what started as an effort just to make a living as an immigrant has enabled him to expand into other business ventures including grocery stores, motels and now eateries. I don't know whether he is right but one has to wonder if the need for human contact could be that strong to overcome all the societal taboos that exist for those men to engage in anonymous homosexual encounters?Some people like broccoli, some people don't..........can science tell us why we "like" or "dislike" a lot of things that are not obvious, such as having a traumatic experience that causes us to, perhaps in most case, dislike something, from mildly to phobic fear?
I don't know if there is a known or absolute way to know what causes any attraction or abhorrence when it comes to many, many things, again, aside from the obvious "environmental" or "experiential" causes.
It is interesting to note that some seem to fear even the possibility that they might even have subconscious bisexual tendencies. I believe simply having them does not mean someone has or will consciously act upon them. I'm not sure why some people may seem to be uncomfortable, with who they are when it comes to what draws them to anything. Perhaps what is needed is a definition of what "bisexual" actually means. Heterosexual people generally means people are attracted to the opposite gender, but "attraction" can cover a whole spectrum of things and ways someone is attracted to anything, including sexual attraction. Certainly, if one is heterosexual, it does not mean they want to have sex with any and all people of the opposite gender. There are other specific "attractions" that narrow their being drawn to others, based on more specific features. Being heterosexual does not mean one cannot be repulsed by a member of the opposite gender. Plus, there are varying degrees of sexual attraction, from next to nothing to raging arousal.
Study or not, conceptually and based on all the physiological things all genders share, for those they don't, it does not seem far fetched that we might share elements of attraction to our own gender. Unless one is having conscious feelings of attraction they aren't sure about acting upon, then there would seem no reason for concern about knowing one has any degree of bisexuality. Even if one does have conscious feelings of attraction for someone of their own gender, what's wrong with it, other than what some in society think?
If you have never had any compunction to wonder about any sexual feelings toward someone of the same gender, then why would there been concern about this study? The mere fact there are so many humans that have never had any homosexual engagement would suggest that even if the study is accurate, it does not mean all heterosexuals are going to run out and engage in sex with someone of the same gender. Knowing I might have elements of bisexuality in my being, does not change who I am and have been, when it comes to who I have ever been attracted to or will continue to be attracted to. I seriously doubt I am going to be attracted to someone from the same gender before I leave this earth, but the possibility that something could happen where that changes, doesn't bother me at all. If it were to happen, it would happen. But for any humans who see it as something other than a part of nature, it would be, a part of nature. No one would be forcing any attraction I might have. I really don't understand any phobia about such a finding or even the concept. For now, I know where my attractions have always been. I don't think they will change, but if they do, will it be because I willed them to or because of what's already a part of me? Where attractions are concerned, what is, is and what will be, will be. Why lose sleep over it?
To be clear, there are "attractions" that can be and are harmful to others or even to one's self, but where "attractions" are benign and any acting upon them are mutual and consensual, who cares if it's men and men, women and women? If you aren't sexually attracted to someone of the same gender, is someone forcing you to be? If you do have an attraction at any point in your life, for someone of the same gender, is someone forcing you to have that attraction? If you don't like broccoli, don't eat it. If you don't like homosexual sex. don't engage in it or watch others engaged in it.
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