How old were you when you knew?

Amelia

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Jun 2014
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How old were you when you knew you were gay, straight, bi, fluid, asexual, none-of-the-above, whatever you consider your sexuality to be?


I remember the night and the location -- but not the exact year -- so I can only narrow it down to my early to mid-20's.
 
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Apr 2012
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Not that I thought about it, neighbors dad had stack of Playboy magazines in downstairs bath. Two stacks from floor to ceiling. I enjoyed what looked at. First gay experiance, I was at mall perusing records, a man looked at me across from other isle and did a heads up, me just saying silent hello. When I left, I noticed man following me through mall. I walked right up security guard ( whom I knew from getting into trouble there ) and told him man was following. He asked which direction I was walking, I told towards Woodward and lothrup and he laughed. He said Woodies had a notorious gay bathroom where gays had sex, and the man thinks you are leading him there.
 
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May 2012
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How old were you when you knew you were gay, straight, bi, fluid, asexual, none-of-the-above, whatever you consider your sexuality to be?


I remember the night and the location -- but not the exact year -- so I can only narrow it down to my early to mid-20's.
4th grade.

I remember the exact day and moment. Some girl turned to me in class and pointed to one of her spots and I am like, "OK that is turning me on."

Forget her name. After that I kept fixating on Mrs. Hall my math teacher who was beyond gorgeous.
 

HCProf

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Never really thought about it...maybe the 8th grade dance when my favorite crush asked me to dance. :) I had never even met a gay person until I started college.
 
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Never really thought about it...maybe the 8th grade dance when my favorite crush asked me to dance. :) I had never even met a gay person until I started college.
Me either.

Back then though they were kind of in the closet which is a shame, not like most of us care. I may be against gay marriage but that's just political, if you want to be gay then its none of my business.
 
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I'm of the opinion that depends upon the circumstances and culture involved. "Some" feel it's an activity people engage in, not necessarily an identity.


Many prison inmates are 'gay for*the stay' | The Independent

Consensual, same-sex prisoner relationships are common among both male and female inmates. It’s not a reflection of their sexuality, but more out of pragmatism and as a counterbalance to loneliness. The expression is “gay for the stay”............
 
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I do this with my students. I asked them what attracts them to someone. It's usually undefinable. You cannot choose who you are turned on by. I may be turned on by George Clooney but that doesn't mean he'll be turned on by me. Oh, he probably would :)
 
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Apr 2014
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I'm of the opinion that depends upon the circumstances and culture involved. "Some" feel it's an activity people engage in, not necessarily an identity.


Many prison inmates are 'gay for*the stay' | The Independent

Consensual, same-sex prisoner relationships are common among both male and female inmates. It’s not a reflection of their sexuality, but more out of pragmatism and as a counterbalance to loneliness. The expression is “gay for the stay”............
In prison it's about sex and nothing more. A lot of people get off with their hand but it doesn't mean that they want to marry their hands
 
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