Misgendering kids and preventing transitioning can constitute child abuse, B.C. Supreme Court rules

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VANCOUVER—Courts have ruled in favour of a teenager who wants medical treatment in his gender transition, despite the opposition of his father, in a ruling that grants trans kids more legal rights and protections.

Last month the B.C. Supreme Court ruled that a teenager, with the support of multiple doctors and health-care workers, can start hormone therapy even though his father thinks he’s not mature enough to make such a decision.

The father appealed the decision on March 4.

Legal experts say the decision will have an impact on the responsibilities of parents by altering family law. It means parents need to respect their kids’ chosen gender, pronouns and name. It also sets a precedent for transitioning youth across the province, suggesting that seeking medical assistance is a health decision and not a political or moral one that a parent can stop.

The ruling, which doesn’t include the names of the family members, explains that the 14-year-old, who was assigned as female at birth, has identified as a boy since he was 11. With the support of his mom and doctors, he wanted to start testosterone hormone therapy in the summer of 2018. However, his father opposed the treatment and took the issue to court.
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I honestly say just accept and love your child for who they are. Easy to say, of course, until one of my own son's decides to change his gender... lol
 

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I honestly say just accept and love your child for who they are. Easy to say, of course, until one of my own son's decides to change his gender... lol
Well its not exactly that easy, to just accept them at who they say they are. It's totally respectable who they are, but parents have the job of making decisions for their kids. His own father pointed that out as the main reason for this court case.

However, you have to gauge that carefully. You can't just be making all the decision until they are 17. If a child is committed, dedicated, motivated and has made all the necessary decisions they can make themselves, then the father needs to respect that - and let go a little. There could be a shared responsibility between the father and the child on the matter. It appears as if that junction wasn't successful and it ended up in court.

I agree with the ruling but to say it's child abuse, well that's just rhetoric. If a court places decision making roadblocks inside family homes then that is abuse of power... in my opinion.
 

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Well its not exactly that easy, to just accept them at who they say they are. It's totally respectable who they are, but parents have the job of making decisions for their kids. His own father pointed that out as the main reason for this court case.

However, you have to gauge that carefully. You can't just be making all the decision until they are 17. If a child is committed, dedicated, motivated and has made all the necessary decisions they can make themselves, then the father needs to respect that - and let go a little. There could be a shared responsibility between the father and the child on the matter. It appears as if that junction wasn't successful and it ended up in court.

I agree with the ruling but to say it's child abuse, well that's just rhetoric. If a court places decision making roadblocks inside family homes then that is abuse of power... in my opinion.
British Columbia is my ex-home province in Canada. I know a bit about the system there, though, not that much. From what I do understand, they often go to extremes there, as far as authorities inserting themselves inside families to "protect" kids... Kid so much as telling a teacher at school her parent smacked her at home or something can result in call to the proper agency, investigation, them showing up at your home, etc. I know a guy who told me once his daughter, at 13, pretty much threatened him and his wife with that shit lol
 
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I don't think a 14 year old child is mature enough to make the decision.
I guess it depends. My spouse works with someone who had a transgender child. I say had because that was when he was 12. Now at 16 he no longer feels comfortable in that and now identifies as a gay male. His parents were always wonderful with him and love him dearly but is glad he never did the hormone thing or surgery.
 
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I guess it depends. My spouse works with someone who had a transgender child. I say had because that was when he was 12. Now at 16 he no longer feels comfortable in that and now identifies as a gay male. His parents were always wonderful with him and love him dearly but is glad he never did the hormone thing or surgery.
Male or female at birth?

I don't really think it depends, I don't think a 14 year old child is mature enough to make the decision to undergo the surgery.
 
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Male or female at birth?

I don't really think it depends, I don't think a 14 year old child is mature enough to make the decision to undergo the surgery.
He was a male at birth but began to identify as a female around 12. Around 16 went back to being a male. From what I understand, he had some tragic events around that time and the psychologist he was seeing felt it led to his decisions. Its possible he needed to find himself or feel comfortable with himself.
 

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Well if he does then you can consider joining him too by changing yours as well! It's been done before you know, by parents. Then you would instead be known as "The Woman!" lol!
lol No, that's not happening... No fucking way...

Male or female at birth?

I don't really think it depends, I don't think a 14 year old child is mature enough to make the decision to undergo the surgery.
In the OP case, wasn't just the kid, but the mother and a bunch of doctors and such specialists apparently weighing in on the decision in kid's favor...
 
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